2 or 3?

Many people have asked me before whether I want a 3rd kid.

Frankly speaking, I love kids and I think children are really gifts from God. But if you have kids yourself, you know how busy they keep you. As a mother, I have to make sacrifices to my personal time, interests and likes. I may have to do things I hate to do, simply because it’s in the interest of my kids. I may have to make extra effort and money to ensure my kids get the best coaching. And I haven’t even gone into the time spent on them and of course the frustrations that come along with the cuteness when they refuse to listen.

Actually when I was still young and unmarried, I always thought I would like to have 3 kids. Having just 1 was never an option because I’ve heard enough about how lonely an only child would be. Now that I have 2 kids, the natural question would be whether I want to have the 3rd one.

I have friends who used to have strong convictions about having the same number of children as a soccer team. Most of them have changed their minds by now. 2 is enough, they would say. Because the dad and mum each goes after 1, just right!

Of course, if you have a maid, you are entitled to an extra pair of hands, thus you can go for the 3rd one. =)

But that’s not the point.

Currently with 2 kids, I feel that the balance is very good. Of course, baby smells and giggles always make me melt, and nothing beats the satisfaction of cuddling a newborn baby who just entered the world out from your body. And I always think that a big family is fun. But… I am hesitated to step out of my comfort zone now. =P Already as it is, when Joey and Jayne takes turn to fall sick, I feel so overwhelmed. I cannot imagine having to deal with 3. The thought is very daunting.

But of course, I also have friends who have 3 or 4 children, and they say it’s a piece of cake. I never fail to be amazed at their level of patience, capacity and ability to juggle. They are just plain amazing.

We’ll see. =)